These are group norms that Venus Collective uses during organizing and women’s circles.
- Listen generously – without thinking of what to say next. BE ATTENTIVE, practice active listening.
- Suspend judgment – be aware and check yourself, understand where others are coming from. Seek to understand how a person arrived at their belief instead of trying to change someone’s mind. When one is busy judging a person, group, or process, responsibility for understanding and improving the group is limited.
- Care and focus on others
- Recognize that all group members have value –Make sure group utilizes each person’s unique worth.
- Relational leadership & shared leadership –Facilitate from the chair – All group members can improve the success of a group even if they are not in charge of the group and challenge old stereotypes of leaders.
- Ask questions to help understanding – Seek to understand , dig deeper. This is how you connect with others. Find out how a person arrived at their position, not just what their position is.
- Steer clear of group thinking as a model of approaching things –Reward new thinking approaches, make it a practice to not stifle out of the box responses or contributions.
- Believe in the group process – Thinking that one knows better than others must be examined before facilitating. The facilitative leader creates the best process for a group to connect with each other, work through chaos, develop unity, and perform.
- Be mindful of your words so not to harm others